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3069 Sat, May 30, 2020
I think the main reason I don't play guitar anymore is because I want to be alone and unheard when I play.  Guitar has sort of always been a solitary pursuit for me, but it seems like a social instrument so people want to listen and request things of me which I don't feel like supplying.

3068 Sat, May 30, 2020
I feel like other people always have something like "I started exercising" or "I stopped drinking alcohol" or "I started waking up at the same time every day" or "I stopped eating meat" that makes them say "and I've been feeling so much better".  I wish I could find that thing for me.

Non-answer Tue, May 12, 2020
I don't know everything, so I sometimes have to rely on other people (partly sarcastic, 100% true).  One thing I keep running into at work is when I ask someone a question and get back a thoughtful, well-stated non-answer.  It has a bunch of words, and it's internally self-consistent, and it has the appearance of an answer, but it's completely devoid of content.  And not because they didn't understand the question or I didn't understand the answer.  There's simply an unwillingness to actually provide a concrete answer.  It could be that they don't want to take a stance on something, or they don't want to overstep their bounds.  Or sometimes it's that they don't want to say something wrong and suffer any consequences.  I don't know if this is because I work in engineering, where the men are sometimes ... unsure of themselves, or because I work in the government, where the people are often ... unsure of themselves, but there's a definite issue of people saying a lot of words and providing literally zero content. 

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Names for body parts Wed, May 06, 2020
This NY Times article (paywall workaround here) talks about why it's a good idea to teach kids the anatomic names for body parts instead of using nicknames. 
But while those safety issues can loom large for worried parents, she said, the most important reason to teach children the right words for body parts -- their own and those of others -- is more positive and more profound. "It helps children develop a healthy, more positive body image, instead of using nicknames that their genitals are something shameful or bad," she said. "It also gives children the correct language for understanding their bodies and asking questions about sexual development."