I have a hard time asking people to do things for me, and it's solely because I don't want to do things for other people.  Hmm, that sounds worse than when it was stewing around in my head.  But here's the deal:  I'm a person with a purpose.  I'm pretty much always doing something or on my way to do something.  Even when I'm idle, I'm not really idle.  So when somebody interrupts my current action (which might look like no action at all) and says, "Hey, can you do this thing for me?", I'm usually annoyed.  For example, I was at a family's house last night where the mother asked the daughter to put away the food and then asked the grandmother to do the dishes.  These two services would allow Wendy and I to meet with the woman and her husband and talk about Bible study planning stuff.  But even though the service requests were legitimate and useful, I still wasn't comfortable with them.  The daughter didn't even eat with us; now she's being told to put away somebody else's food.  The grandmother doesn't even live there; now she's being asked to do dishes.  If I were in either serving person's position, I would've been angry and reluctant to help out.  This shows that I'm pretty selfish.  But these service requests simply open up the mother to be obligated to help out with something in the future.  And that's where my reluctance comes in.  I'd rather do something myself instead of asking someone to do it for me, simply because I don't like being asked to do things.  There ya have it. #psychology