Ha!  That's a funny title, but no, this isn't about adult diapers. 

We're reading this book called "Love, Sex, & Lasting Relationships" in our Sunday school class and I just realized something.  For a long time, I've been apprehensive about the idea of trusting another person.  At some point in the past, I came up with a quote:  "Don't depend on people; they'll always let you down."  I didn't mean that they'll always let you down.  I meant that people will let you down at some point.  It may not be today or tomorrow, but it will eventually and inevitably happen.  This has two parts:  the idea of trusting someone to come through with something, to be there on time, or to do you a favor; and the idea of relying on someone to fulfill a certain desire or need.  The first part is mainly based on pride.  I don't trust people to get things done for me, so I often do them myself.  That's my problem.  It's pride based on repeated failures in the past.  But that's not the main issue here.  The main issue is the second part, that I don't rely on another person to meet my needs.  And I think that's still true, at least to a certain extent.  The book has a few interesting quotes:
The key to lasting relationships is developing a relationship with God through Christ in such a way that you are secure in who you are in him.

If you attempt to build intimacy with a person before you've done the hard work of becoming a whole and healthy person, every relationship will be an attempt to complete the hole in your heart and the lack of what you don't have.  That relationship will end in disaster.

In other words, when your identity is in Christ, you don't need others the same way, you don't have to perform, and they don't have to come through in order for your ultimate needs to be met.

The world says, "Set your hope on this person to come through for you.  Make this person the center of your existence."  It doesn't work.  The problem is, that person is weak, imperfect, and needy, just like you and just like me.
It's not that you shouldn't trust a person at all, it's that you shouldn't depend on them to fulfill your desires and needs.  Depend on God for that.  A person can meet some of your needs, and that's great.  But if you depend on a person to consistently meet those needs, you're setting yourself up for disappointment, just like you would eventually disappoint a person who's depending on you. 

This all sounds kind of dismal, but I think it's the truth. #religion